Moving On

Moving on, letting go, forgiving and forgetting, is harder than it sounds.  When someone slights you, or betrays your trust, the urge to seek revenge is almost blinding.  But don't do it.  Take care of your business interests and move on as a gift to yourself.  The old adage is one of the great truisms:  Living well is the best revenge.  The secret to living well at work is moving on from your negative experiences and feelings and refocusing on your goals.

I find one of the greatest tricks to help yourself move on is remembering that it's not all about you.  People do what they do whether you're there or not.  Negative people hurt everyone around them.  If you pause, and think about it, you realize this.  Once you realize that negative behaviour has less to do with how you are and more to do with negative habbits of ignorance, you learn.  You learn to avoid that negativity from that individual and carry on toward your goals.

The other trick is to see it in context.  Your reputation has been attacked by someone for their gain and it upsets you.  But why?  Is the slight actually hurting you?  Does this opinion have any weight?  Is this the only job in this industry that will allow you to move toward your goals, assuming the negativity gets you fired?  Usually, you are just upset and afraid by the lack of compassion of others.  Usually, nothing ever amounts to negative words, unless you let it hurt you.

Don't let negative words hurt you.  Move on.  Laugh it off.  Turn it around and have a little fun.  Usually those who dish it out liberally can't take it.  Be careful though, if you're seeking revenge instead of just having some fun, it can get ugly.  Either way, let it go and move toward your goals.  Minor slights today, fade into the sunset for those who learn to move along their path in life.  Move along your path.

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